A Letter to My Gay Gender-Expansive Son

Posted on Jan 4, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

This post was published on Huffington Post, Huffpo Japan, and A Note to my Kid. I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I’m very proud of him. One thing I don’t tell him every day is how much being his mother has changed the way I see the world. So I wrote this letter. Dear Danny, Remember when we went on magic carpet rides and sang A Whole New World in the car? What I didn’t realize then is that you truly...

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To LGBTQ+ Young People: 10 Things to Know About Unsupportive Parents

Posted on Dec 20, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Resources for Supporting Youth, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 1 comment

This post was published on Huffington Post in December, 2015. One day we’ll live in a world where supporting all of our children is a no-brainer. For now, many LGBTQ+ people have to deal with parents and caregivers who aren’t so supportive. If this is your situation, my heart goes out to you. You deserve better. You deserve to be loved unconditionally for who you are. Many young LGBTQ+ people I’ve met want to understand what...

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Thriving as an Out Proud Mom

Posted on Jun 26, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 4 comments

I want families to know that being Out and Proud not only makes a difference for our children, it can also transform our lives. When I first came out in support of my gender-creative son, it was to stop the name calling and teasing in elementary school. Years later, being the Out Proud Mom of a gay son has made me a happier, more confident, braver person.  I want families to know that being Out and Proud not only makes a difference for our...

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For LGBTQ+ People: Understanding & Supporting your Family’s Process

Posted on May 18, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 0 comments

Are you an LGBTQ person whose family isn’t very supportive? Are you afraid to come out to your family because they might not react well? If so, this post may help you understand your parents or other family members. I recently conducted a workshop on this topic with a group of students (and a few former students) at the Queer Asian Conference at UC Berkeley. I was impressed by their insights and by how open they were to seeing things from...

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A letter for LGBTQ+ youth whose families don’t accept them

Posted on Apr 20, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

Last September, I wrote a letter to parents & caregivers who don’t accept their LGBTQ+ children. Today, I’m writing to their children. As I write, I hold in my heart young people who are facing hardship because their parents don’t accept them. I also hold in my heart those young people who are no longer with us – those who have taken their own lives, or had their lives taken from them because of homophobia and transphobia in their...

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How Gender Boxes Harm All Children and What We Can Do About It

Posted on Apr 9, 2014 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 0 comments

My early parenting experiences were sometimes hard. I had a son who liked to play with dolls and dress up as a princess and I didn’t know if that was okay. I’ve learned a lot since then, and today I’m sharing some of what I’ve learned about the impact of gender boxes on children. As early as two years of age, children learn that there are different rules for boys and girls that they are expected to follow. They learn by...

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