To Moms With Love

Posted on May 2, 2016 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

Published in Huffington Post here. This post is dedicated to mamas who do what it takes to help their children have the best lives possible. It’s for moms who are perfectly imperfect and don’t always get it right. It’s for mothers who stand by their children and remind them that they are loved, even when the world around them tries to diminish their worth. It’s for anyone who plays the role of mother in the life of a young person and...

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What I Wish I’d Known About Gender When I Became a Parent

Posted on Mar 9, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for service providers | 1 comment

Published in Huffington Post here. “You had a beautiful baby boy.” Those were the first words I heard after my child was born. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. It soon became obvious that Danny was different than other boys. He loved Barbie dolls, dressing up in skirts and shimmery things, and preferred playing with girls. I didn’t know...

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A Letter to My Gay Gender-Expansive Son

Posted on Jan 4, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

This post was published on Huffington Post, Huffpo Japan, and A Note to my Kid. I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I’m very proud of him. One thing I don’t tell him every day is how much being his mother has changed the way I see the world. So I wrote this letter. Dear Danny, Remember when we went on magic carpet rides and sang A Whole New World in the car? What I didn’t realize then is that you truly...

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To LGBTQ+ Young People: 10 Things to Know About Unsupportive Parents

Posted on Dec 20, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Resources for Supporting Youth, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 1 comment

This post was published on Huffington Post in December, 2015. One day we’ll live in a world where supporting all of our children is a no-brainer. For now, many LGBTQ+ people have to deal with parents and caregivers who aren’t so supportive. If this is your situation, my heart goes out to you. You deserve better. You deserve to be loved unconditionally for who you are. Many young LGBTQ+ people I’ve met want to understand what...

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My Son was a Princess for Halloween and I Became a Better Parent

Posted on Oct 1, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

(published in Huffington Post on September 30, 2015. Also published in Polish, here. See related story on Good Morning America, here.) A few weeks before my son Danny’s 4th birthday, I asked him what he wanted to be for Halloween. “I wanna be a princess,” he said. He didn’t hesitate for a second. But I did. I cringed inside and tried hard not to show it. “My reaction was clouded by visions of children teasing, of...

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Transgender Women’s Lives: A Family Matter

Posted on Sep 4, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

Also published in the Huffington Post, here. This year we’ve broken a record, and it’s not a good one. More transgender women have been killed in the U.S. than in any other year on record. I’m heartbroken and angered that women keep dying, most of them women of color, most of them Black. Most were between the ages of 17-25, just coming into adulthood, when their lives, dreams and futures were stolen. They were sisters,...

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