A Letter to Parents Who Don’t Accept their Gay and Transgender Children

Posted on Sep 16, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 8 comments

Below is a letter of love and encouragement for parents who are not accepting of their lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) children. Many parents find themselves at a crossroads when they discover their child is LGBTQ. They need understanding and compassion to sort through the confusion and fear they might face. Please share this letter with someone you know. It could make a big difference for them. Dear Fellow Parent, I want...

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Should I Ask?

Posted on Aug 14, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

“I think my son might be gay. He never mentions any interest in girls… but he’s never actually come out to me as gay or anything like that. Should I ask him directly? Will this make it easier for him to tell me?” The Parents Project is a wonderful page that uses a question and answer format to provide information to parents of LGBTQ youth. I was invited to write a response to this question from a parent and am reposting my response...

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From Misfit to Out Proud Mom

Posted on Jun 26, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

I struggled with feeling apart, rather than being a part of any community. I wasn’t always an out proud mom. During my son’s early years, I felt like a misfit for a lot of reasons. I was a Japanese/Jewish American widow and single mother. I struggled with feeling apart, rather than being a part of any community. On top of this, I had a little multiracial son name Danny who loved Barbies, mermaids, unicorns and dressing up as a...

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Pearls of Wisdom from an Out Proud Grandpa

Posted on Jun 6, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 1 comment

When my son Danny started wearing skirts and dresses at age three, and when he came out after high school, his grandpa was there. My father, Arthur Shigeru Mayeno, has always been there for Danny and me. Now 87, he has never talked much, but his wisdom runs deep. He’s admired by many who meet him, and a shining example of a man, an elder, and an amazing ally. Teaching through his actions more than his words, Dad’s wisdom helped prepare...

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How Gender Boxes Harm All Children and What We Can Do About It

Posted on Apr 9, 2014 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 0 comments

My early parenting experiences were sometimes hard. I had a son who liked to play with dolls and dress up as a princess and I didn’t know if that was okay. I’ve learned a lot since then, and today I’m sharing some of what I’ve learned about the impact of gender boxes on children. As early as two years of age, children learn that there are different rules for boys and girls that they are expected to follow. They learn by...

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Announcing Out Proud Families: Coming Out of the Gender Box

Posted on Mar 12, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 1 comment

When my son Danny was in preschool and decided he wanted to be a princess for Halloween, I didn’t know how much I would change. I grew up in the 1960s in a mixed race family that embraced difference. I marched to end war and racism and to support immigrant rights. Yet, being Danny’s mom, I discovered I had deeply held prejudices about gender. In the beginning, I wondered if there was something wrong with him. I tolerated his...

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