What I Wish I’d Known About Gender When I Became a Parent

Posted on Mar 9, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for service providers | 1 comment

Published in Huffington Post here. “You had a beautiful baby boy.” Those were the first words I heard after my child was born. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. It soon became obvious that Danny was different than other boys. He loved Barbie dolls, dressing up in skirts and shimmery things, and preferred playing with girls. I didn’t know...

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A Letter to My Gay Gender-Expansive Son

Posted on Jan 4, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

This post was published on Huffington Post, Huffpo Japan, and A Note to my Kid. I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I’m very proud of him. One thing I don’t tell him every day is how much being his mother has changed the way I see the world. So I wrote this letter. Dear Danny, Remember when we went on magic carpet rides and sang A Whole New World in the car? What I didn’t realize then is that you truly...

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New & Expecting Parents/Caregivers: 8 Things to Know about Gender and Sexual Orientation

Posted on Mar 16, 2015 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for service providers | 0 comments

One of the first things I remember hearing after my baby was born was, “You had a beautiful baby boy”. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. “Accept the children the way we accept trees—with gratitude, because they are a blessing—but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are.”―Isabel...

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How Gender Boxes Harm All Children and What We Can Do About It

Posted on Apr 9, 2014 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 0 comments

My early parenting experiences were sometimes hard. I had a son who liked to play with dolls and dress up as a princess and I didn’t know if that was okay. I’ve learned a lot since then, and today I’m sharing some of what I’ve learned about the impact of gender boxes on children. As early as two years of age, children learn that there are different rules for boys and girls that they are expected to follow. They learn by...

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