When Love Triumphs: A Father Who Learned to Accept His Queer Child

Posted on Jun 16, 2016 in Out Proud Families | 0 comments

Published in Huffington Post here. Earlier this year my friend and colleague, Margo Rivera-Weiss, lost their father. The loving relationship I saw between this elderly Latino man and his queer, gender nonconforming child, touched and inspired me. Here is Margo’s story in honor of their father, Jaime Rivera Valdiviezo. (Note: I am using “they” and “their” as gender-neutral pronouns.) Jaime called Margo his “love child” because...

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To Moms With Love

Posted on May 2, 2016 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

Published in Huffington Post here. This post is dedicated to mamas who do what it takes to help their children have the best lives possible. It’s for moms who are perfectly imperfect and don’t always get it right. It’s for mothers who stand by their children and remind them that they are loved, even when the world around them tries to diminish their worth. It’s for anyone who plays the role of mother in the life of a young person and...

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What I Wish I’d Known About Gender When I Became a Parent

Posted on Mar 9, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for service providers | 1 comment

Published in Huffington Post here. “You had a beautiful baby boy.” Those were the first words I heard after my child was born. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. It soon became obvious that Danny was different than other boys. He loved Barbie dolls, dressing up in skirts and shimmery things, and preferred playing with girls. I didn’t know...

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A Letter to My Gay Gender-Expansive Son

Posted on Jan 4, 2016 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

This post was published on Huffington Post, Huffpo Japan, and A Note to my Kid. I tell my son I love him all the time. I also tell him that I’m very proud of him. One thing I don’t tell him every day is how much being his mother has changed the way I see the world. So I wrote this letter. Dear Danny, Remember when we went on magic carpet rides and sang A Whole New World in the car? What I didn’t realize then is that you truly...

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To LGBTQ+ Young People: 10 Things to Know About Unsupportive Parents

Posted on Dec 20, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Resources for Supporting Youth, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 1 comment

This post was published on Huffington Post in December, 2015. One day we’ll live in a world where supporting all of our children is a no-brainer. For now, many LGBTQ+ people have to deal with parents and caregivers who aren’t so supportive. If this is your situation, my heart goes out to you. You deserve better. You deserve to be loved unconditionally for who you are. Many young LGBTQ+ people I’ve met want to understand what...

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About Our Son: A Letter to My Late Husband

Posted on Oct 29, 2015 in Out Proud Families | 1 comment

This post was published in the Huffington Post in four languages: English, Spanish, French, and Italian. With Dia de los Muertos/Day of the Dead approaching, I decided to write a letter to my late husband Wilfredo. He was killed 27 years ago while I was pregnant with our son Danny. He loved children and they loved him, but he never got to meet his own son. This letter is an offering to Wilfredo, nicknamed Colocho for his curly...

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