My Son was a Princess for Halloween and I Became a Better Parent

Posted on Oct 1, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

(published in Huffington Post on September 30, 2015. Also published in Polish, here. See related story on Good Morning America, here.) A few weeks before my son Danny’s 4th birthday, I asked him what he wanted to be for Halloween. “I wanna be a princess,” he said. He didn’t hesitate for a second. But I did. I cringed inside and tried hard not to show it. “My reaction was clouded by visions of children teasing, of...

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Transgender Women’s Lives: A Family Matter

Posted on Sep 4, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

Also published in the Huffington Post, here. This year we’ve broken a record, and it’s not a good one. More transgender women have been killed in the U.S. than in any other year on record. I’m heartbroken and angered that women keep dying, most of them women of color, most of them Black. Most were between the ages of 17-25, just coming into adulthood, when their lives, dreams and futures were stolen. They were sisters,...

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Thriving as an Out Proud Mom

Posted on Jun 26, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 4 comments

I want families to know that being Out and Proud not only makes a difference for our children, it can also transform our lives. When I first came out in support of my gender-creative son, it was to stop the name calling and teasing in elementary school. Years later, being the Out Proud Mom of a gay son has made me a happier, more confident, braver person.  I want families to know that being Out and Proud not only makes a difference for our...

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The Parents Project: Celebrating Resources for Families with LGBTQ Kids

Posted on Jun 17, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

The Parents Project is a first-of-its-kind digital presence, inclusive of videos, advice, and resources, dedicated exclusively toward helping parents understand their LGBTQ kids. Happy Pride Month! This month I am celebrating one year of partnership with The Parents Project. Founded by Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo, The Parents Project is a first-of-its-kind digital presence, inclusive of videos, advice, and resources, dedicated...

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For LGBTQ+ People: Understanding & Supporting your Family’s Process

Posted on May 18, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth, Support for service providers | 0 comments

Are you an LGBTQ person whose family isn’t very supportive? Are you afraid to come out to your family because they might not react well? If so, this post may help you understand your parents or other family members. I recently conducted a workshop on this topic with a group of students (and a few former students) at the Queer Asian Conference at UC Berkeley. I was impressed by their insights and by how open they were to seeing things from...

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A letter for LGBTQ+ youth whose families don’t accept them

Posted on Apr 20, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for LGBTQ+ Youth | 0 comments

Last September, I wrote a letter to parents & caregivers who don’t accept their LGBTQ+ children. Today, I’m writing to their children. As I write, I hold in my heart young people who are facing hardship because their parents don’t accept them. I also hold in my heart those young people who are no longer with us – those who have taken their own lives, or had their lives taken from them because of homophobia and transphobia in their...

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