New & Expecting Parents/Caregivers: 8 Things to Know about Gender and Sexual Orientation

Posted on Mar 16, 2015 in One of Kind Like Me, Out Proud Families, Support for educators, Support for families/caregivers, Support for service providers | 0 comments

One of the first things I remember hearing after my baby was born was, “You had a beautiful baby boy”. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. “Accept the children the way we accept trees—with gratitude, because they are a blessing—but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are.”―Isabel...

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Parents say: Our LGBTQ Children have Changed our Lives – For the Better!

Posted on Feb 3, 2015 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

People often think that having an LGBTQ+ child makes life difficult for parents. I wrote this post to offer a different perspective. Having a gender-creative little boy who is now an out proud gay man has made my life better in many ways. I reached out to find out if other parents feel the same way, and many do. Twelve parents from a range of cultural backgrounds and countries told me via Facebook, email, phone, and in-person about ways their...

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Six Cultural Barriers to Family Acceptance

Posted on Dec 1, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 0 comments

People often ask me about the cultural barriers that I see working with Latino families around family acceptance. I hesitate to answer this question because I don’t want to feed into stereotypes. The term culture is often used to talk about people who are considered different than the mainstream, but not about U.S. culture in general. This post discusses dominant cultural beliefs and norms related to gender and sexual orientation that I grew...

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Okaeri Welcomes us Home: Four Lessons on Love and Building Community

Posted on Nov 27, 2014 in Out Proud Families | 2 comments

In November, I attended Okaeri, a gathering of LGBTQ Nikkei people (people of Japanese descent), families and allies. As soon as I heard about the gathering, I knew I had to be there, even if it meant driving 400 miles and back. As a mixed-race Sansei (third generation in the U.S.) mother of a gay son, I was thrilled to have my first opportunity to gather with other Japanese-Americans to address LGBTQ issues. Here are four lessons I learned from...

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Making it Easier for your Child to Come Out: 10 Tips for Parents and Caregivers

Posted on Oct 9, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 2 comments

Every day there are many young lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender* (LGBT) people thinking about coming out. Many hope that coming out will give them freedom to be themselves with the people they love the most. For some, the thought of coming out is the scariest thing imaginable. If your child is thinking about coming out, you probably don’t know about it. If your child identifies as LGBT, you may not even have the slightest idea. Even...

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A Letter to Parents Who Don’t Accept their Gay and Transgender Children

Posted on Sep 16, 2014 in Out Proud Families, Support for families/caregivers | 8 comments

Below is a letter of love and encouragement for parents who are not accepting of their lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) children. Many parents find themselves at a crossroads when they discover their child is LGBTQ. They need understanding and compassion to sort through the confusion and fear they might face. Please share this letter with someone you know. It could make a big difference for them. Dear Fellow Parent, I want...

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